Ready for Your Quantum Leap?!

Is it fair to say your life is comprised of the decisions you’ve made? While life has all dealt us a different hand, the decisions we make matter.

Sometimes decisions appear inconsequential, like whether you chose to drink the full cup of coffee or left half of it. There are medium-sized decisions: do I choose a new exercise routine, not contact the summer fling back, or ask my manager for hours more conducive to my lifestyle? Sometimes the life-defining are obvious: do I stick out the marriage or end it? Do I stay in the same city or relocate?

Whether or not we realize it, we’re always making important decisions.

consciousness, identityDan LoneySeptember 4, 2023quantum leapComment

How to Be Happier

We often make life harder than it has to be. We self-sabotage healthy choices and give energy to unhealthy choices—sometimes unknowingly but sometimes, we’ve got a clue. We trap ourselves in invisible cages.

| You might know you need to put up a boundary but feel like you can’t.

| You might meet a healthy partner but spend energy around an unhealthy one.

| You might have potential in an area but put off pursuing it.

Easy choices = a hard life. Hard choices = an easy life.

consciousness, dating, identity, unstuckDan LoneyApril 23, 2023how to be happier

Tired? Exhausted? Hopeless? Restructure Your Internal Organization

Does it feel like the world is getting a little crazier? Is it hard to keep up?

These days, everything has been changing: dating and relationships, family structures, work industries, living arrangements, social activities, politics, etc. While some changes are beneficial—people are becoming more empowered, adventurous, efficient, bold, creative, well-rounded, and integrated—they don’t come without a cost. You’re also not alone if changes are leaving you overwhelmed, frustrated, lost, confused—even sad, alone, and hopeless.

If this is resonating with you, you’re not only not the only one. I can safely give structure to your well-being and mental health. You game?

Boundaries, consciousness, anxiety, identityDan LoneySeptember 25, 2022tired, exhaustedComment

The Imaginal Podcast: Discovering an Even Truer You

In today's episode, Dan Loney offers fresh perspectives and navigable pathways to finding an even truer version of yourself. While that could sound at times like a catch phrase, Dan brings illustrative examples as he tangibly explains why this is so meaningful. He also brings charm and depth to topics that could otherwise seem too familiar.

podcast, identity, consciousnessDan LoneyDecember 25, 2021theimaginalpodcast, discovering an even truer youComment

Narratives are Powerful

Where do narratives come from?

They come from family. From place of birth. From culture. From country. From media outlets and teachers.

You know what’s scary about a narrative?

They are EXTREMELY hard to escape. When we come to believe a narrative, we’ll use “confirmation bias” to selectively choose information to give power to the narrative.

identity, anxiety, consciousnessDan LoneyOctober 17, 2020

Nine Prompts For Journaling

Journaling.

This is the topic that invokes fear in the greatest of humans.

This is the homework therapists love to assign and clients love to pretend they’ve done.

People like the idea of journaling. They know the benefits of journaling. They hate the practice of journaling.

Therefore, I’m not going to tell you to journal. I’m not going to tell you the benefits of journaling. I’m just going to give you 9 journal prompts. You can decide where to take this. And fine, I’ll give you one-gigantic reason to start journaling.

identity, consciousnessDan LoneyMay 3, 2020journalingComment

Reverse Engineer Your Life

When working with schemas, which are the unhealthy + unconscious lenses we wear on the world, we reverse engineer reality.

What does that mean?

I work with my clients on first assessing what their worldview is—which, once again is unconscious—then seeing how the belief was developed. You know the problem though? We actually have a hard time understanding what our worldview is. But once identified and analyzed, we see what’s not working, what we’ve previously tried and are currently trying to fix things, and then bring in reality.

schema therapy, identityDan LoneyFebruary 11, 2020

Social Media and Relationships

In this blog, I’m going to give you some perspective on how social media is subtly changing us individually and relationally, as well as a few healthy steps we can take in these changing times.

First, for some perspective.

Did you know that with each notification ping, flash, and buzz, the feel-good chemical of dopamine is released in your brain? Dopamine is a reward signaling that we’ve accomplished something. It helps us relax. It’s why social media is addictive; we are not accomplishing anything and receiving the good effects of it. This isn’t by accident—each part of social media has been programmed to make you stick around.

relationships, identity, BoundariesDan LoneyAugust 21, 2019social mediaComment

Want to Reduce Your Anxiety? Part II: Separate Your Thoughts & Feelings

So you know the classic therapist question? Personally, it is one that I loathe. You know the question, right?

“And how did that make you feel?”

Despite my disdain, there’s a reason why as a therapist, the “And how did that make you feel?” is still the #1 arrow in my questioning-bow.

anxiety, identityDan LoneyJune 3, 2019differentiation, bowen, anxietyComment

Want to Reduce Your Anxiety? Part I: Try "I Statements"

Have you ever stood next to someone who has enough anxiety they look like a tea kettle before it starts screaming? Heck, you don’t even have to be next to them. You can feel a person’s anxiety across a room. And what happens when you feel their anxiety? Yes, now you get their anxiety.

Anxiety is like hot potato. It gets passed from one person to the next. It’s an unconscious, invisible force. But I also want to point out a misconception with anxiety: everyone has it. All anxiety means is ‘nervousness about the future.’

identity, anxietyDan LoneyMay 27, 2019anxiety, bowen, differentiation

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