How to Be Happier

We often make life harder than it has to be. We self-sabotage healthy choices and give energy to unhealthy choices—sometimes unknowingly but sometimes, we’ve got a clue. We trap ourselves in invisible cages.

| You might know you need to put up a boundary but feel like you can’t.

| You might meet a healthy partner but spend energy around an unhealthy one.

| You might have potential in an area but put off pursuing it.

Easy choices = a hard life. Hard choices = an easy life.

consciousness, dating, identity, unstuckDan LoneyApril 23, 2023how to be happier

Why Consciousness Matters: III

Did you know that we’re all struggling to achieve a higher state of consciousness?

Growing in consciousness human evolution. If you ever feel “stuck,” your soul is begging you to find a way to increase its consciousness!

Here’s my third-grade definition of consciousness and why it matters: consciousness is your ability to work through stuff. The more you work through things in your life, the more intimacy, peace, freedom, and connection you’ll experience.

Consciousness is when discomfort and adversity is experienced and reprocessed in healthy and productive ways. Our cumulative ability to work through things in different fields roughly represents our consciousness as individuals and collectives. So, how can you grow in consciousness?

consciousness, spiral dynamics, unstuckDan LoneyJuly 26, 2022Comment

Have a Healthier Conversation with Yourself

First, have you seen the movie Inside Out? The one where the people have all these internal characters—Anger, Sadness, Joy, Disgust, Fear—speaking to one another?

Conscious of it or not, we constantly have different parts speaking to us. They each have their own unique personality and fears. When stressed, our parts speak louder and more incessantly. Parts may be emotions like the ones in Inside Out, or they may also be thoughts, physical sensations, and bodily reactions.

unstuck, internal family systemsDan LoneyMay 20, 2022ifs, internal family systemsComment